Success tips to communicate with teens

Success tips to communicate with teens
Adolescent problems.
Many parents have complained, had difficulty communicating with his teenage son, why? Whereas before, everything is going well. But once children reach the age of adolescence, the conflict, "brag" or the frequent discrepancies between adolescents and parents. Parents do not understand, why it happened, who is wrong?.
Why be a difficult adolescent behavior?. Adolescence is the transitional period or periods in human life that has some of the changes that occur simultaneously. Inability teens cope with the conditions of pressing for change, often resulting in disturbances in behavior. Changes that occur in young children, including changes in: physical, cognitive, social, and emotional.
Physical changes occur as a result of cooking the hormone testosterone in men and estrogen in women. Adolescent girls with menstrual marked the first time (menarche) and the teenage boy with a wet dream (pollutio) maturity of these hormones affect the maturation of reproductive organs and development of secondary sex characteristics.
Cognitive development of adolescents reach the formal operational stage that allows adolescents to think abstractly and complex, so that teenagers can make decisions for themselves.
Social development, indicated a strong desire in adolescents to disengage from ties with family and more involved with their peers. This is done in an attempt to find juvenile identity, a social role as a private independent adults.
Emotional development, characterized by unstable emotions and tumultuous. Emotional changes are closely related to the maturity of hormones that occur in adolescents.
From the little description above can be understood that the developmental changes that occur in adolescents, often resulting in adolescents experiencing distress (stress). The ability of adolescents to overcome the problems, so that no stress is determined by how much support from family, especially his parents. The greater support in overcoming various diperoelh teenage problem, the lower the likelihood that adolescents experience stress in their behavior to avoid interference. How communication with adolescents, to be effective and harmonious, so that it can help the process of personal development towards maturity.Communication with adolescents

            Communication, both verbal and nonverbal basically is one important aspect in the education of children, are also sources of stimulation to form the personality of the child. If communication between parents and children can run well, then each party can give and receive information, feelings and opinions so as to know what they want, and The conflict can be avoided. Openness through this communication that will cultivate the child can be accepted and respected as human beings. Conversely, if no communication is better then most likely experiencing barriers to mental health conditions. From the research evidence of the tendency of psychopathology in children, due to a bottleneck in the communication process between the child's parents, especially her mother.

            In the process of personality development of children, parents also play a role as an educator is responsible for instilling moral values ​​and life will be a strong foundation for the growth of the soul and the individual child. Family is a vehicle for children to draw a variety of science. Through parenting parents recognize moral values, good practice and to know that bad before he developed the social interaction outside the family. The success of parents in developing moral values ​​is not caused by his authority, but rather on how to communicate these values ​​are adjusted to the level of intellectual development. In fact many parents who are less able to communicate with their children, especially with teens. Why?. Many parents are unaware that a response (verbal or nonverbal) in response to his son, led to communication apprehension.
The response is often expressed in his parents that caused interruption of communication, such as: rule; threat-warning; urgent-giving sermons; advise, solve the problem; a lecture-taught; judge, criticize, disagree-blame; mocking-making shame; investigate, prosecute; avoidance-distraction-laugh, and praise agree;
The above expressions make the kids: stop pembicaraaan; defend themselves; attack, arguing; feel inferior; hate and anger; feel guilty; feel treated like a child; was not understood; feel her feelings are not justified; was being interrogated. It was all of these criteria often do the parents in his authority as one who must be obeyed.
How should? In order for an uninterrupted communication with the child's parents it is important to understand how to communicate effectively, among others:
A. Opened the door, the expression of the parents who allow children to talk more, encourage children to come and pour out his heart. And an important growth in children a sense of welcome and appreciated. Some of the statements that are open include: "I understand .. "Yeah .. hm .. "Oh yes .." Tell me more .. "mother koq interested ya .." Looks like you seneng ya ..
2. Active Listening, the ability of parents to accurately describe the child's feelings, so parents understand the child's feelings, who shipped the child through verbal and nonverbal language. The advantage of active listening, among other things: encourage katarasis; help children not afraid of feelings (positive-negative); develop great relationships with parents; facilitate the child solve the problem; improve children's ability to hear the opinion of the parents; increase the responsibility of children
3. Communication with empathic, empathetic communication principle: "Trying to understand first, a new understanding". In empathic listening, we as parents try to get into the frame of mind, feelings of our teenagers. We as parents, not just heard by the ears, but with the eyes and hearts. Our hearts feel, understand, explore and intuitive with the problems being experienced by our teenagers. Our eyes observe nonverbal messages expressed by our children. We use the left brain right brain simultaneously. Hearing is empathic listening to understand both emotionally as well as intellectually, not with the intent to reply, to control or manipulate others.
It is not easy to be able to establish positive communication with our teenagers who are experiencing many upheavals in her. But it does not mean it can not. Comprehension and understanding we as parents of the difficulties being experienced by our young children, is very important. Teenagers we need understanding from his parents that he is experiencing this process will support the establishment perubahan.Sikap positive communication with our teenagers.

Business Success Stories

Business Success Stories
last week I had the opportunity to visit a ceramic factory or full Arowana Arowana Citramulia Tbk PT Cikande area, Serang, Banten. This is the second plant at their disposal. The first factory in Tangerang, while the last plant in Gresik, East Java. Arowana built the first factory in 1995 with a production capacity of only about 2.88 million square meters per year, a second factory was built in 1997 with a capacity Cikande 4.5 million square meters per year. Capacity did not change until 2002, after the national economy experienced stability and even growth.
Time of our visit there, all three plants capable of producing ceramic Arowana as many as 38 million square meters annually from the 16 line that they have. This amount will soon increase with the expansion that has been prepared to do if the machine starts to be installed in late 2010. In Cikande, what's interesting is the construction of factories that use an open concept. In fact, in the factory there is also a park. Beyond that, clearly visible from the factory area, ponds and parks where animals such as goats, chickens, pigeons and other birds roam free.
From the figures it appears that the exposure was able to double its production Arowana in a relatively short period of time. In just 15 years, from 1995 to 2010, factory production capacity rose more than 13 times and still will continue to grow again. Strike at its plant in the manufacturing facility has begun to wake up to the installation of two-line engines were expected to come and be installed later this year. With the completion of additional capacity, the Arowana will begin to climb the world's top 20 ceramic companies, exactly the number L6, having previously occupied the 25th place in 2009. Imagine, in just a period of 15 years, the Arowana can become major global players.
In Indonesia, Arowana currently occupies the second position after the Noble Ceramics, part of the Honor Industrindo. Mulia Ceramics predictable production capacity of about 130,000 square meters per day, while the Arowana has a production capacity of 110,000 square meters. Nevertheless, from a variety of Arowana terms began to show prowess. The company produces the largest single brand.
All the production is using the brand Arowana. Similarly, market capitalization on the Stock Exchange of Indonesians and business profitability, appears to be the largest Arowana than its competitor. This means the company's competitors must be on guard to see the development of the company.
Somewhat different from other ceramic companies are most focused on middle to upper market with premium ceramics in various forms of granite tiles and so on, Arowana instead focus on lower middle market. However, their products are certified Standard National Indonesia (SNI) showed that although their products are intended for that market, they guarantee the quality of ceramic products Arowana as promised. This commitment is not playing because they carry out the basic philosophy that they believe, that for us little people should not play with a quality kualitas.Produk (KW1) and two are distinguished by the color of cardboard. The retailer who play these qualities, for example by exchanging goods, will be dealt with firmly. All of this is driven by the owner to keep the religious attitude of protecting the little guy.
Visited the factory in Cikande, we really can be convinced that what is said by its founder that it is indeed reflected in the field. The factory uses the machines in the world's number one. They always build the plant on a turnkey basis by SACMI Italy. It shows their commitment to product quality.
Interestingly, even their first factory in Cikande IIA or known by the factory, who was 13 years old today still awake condition and even cleanliness. Their machines, including the refinery furnace wall continues to be cleaned three times a day so the plant is maintained clean. That is why if we stare up at the factory IIA, it still looks clean roof and blue paint even still looked relatively intact.
Hard work shown by all staff as well as innovations that they do eventually make their factory machines capable of working beyond capacity. For example, ceramic printing machine in Italy itself is only capable of producing 90 copies per minute, the company is able to produce 110 pieces per minute. That is why, as a whole acquired a very high productivity. The increase in productivity since 2003 to date has reached 117%. Imagine, it even has a factory with a capacity more than double than it should.
As a result of a very high productivity, Arowana able to produce the lowest cost of production. They even dare to proudly say they are the lowest production costs in Asia, even lower than production costs in China. In Asia there are no production costs lower than $ 2 per square meter. DiArwana, at that price, they even turn a profit. Today they are the most expensive products are priced Rp24.000 per square meter which consists of 11 pieces (each dusnya).
All of that in the end it reflects the principle of which is owned by the founder and owner, Tandean Rustandy, MBA. Men born in Pontianak is a relatively young spend most of his time in the United States to complete their studies at the University of Colorado and University of Chicago. Life experience that once a person makes it difficult to have a steely determination to take the welfare of the child. In addition to making the production of good quality but cheap, Tandean Rustandy too much to help build schools and working with the television station RCTI always help build houses for people who are very poor in the event House Surgery. This part of social responsibility (CSR) company.
Indonesia should take pride in this business. With hard work and strong principles, employers are able to become a model in a live competition, including with China. Hopefully many other dreams also can be accomplished.

Business Success Story (Inspiration)

Business Success Story (Inspiration)
Inspiration is a strong drive to succeed. For that, we will share the inspiration in this and the next episode in the Doing Business In Singapore. I am Aji Rokhadi.
Merry Riana success achieved success at a young age in Singapore, which has been achieved because of the vision he had. He wants to be successful before the age of 30 years. The main capital, is courage. We consider the dialogue between Setyadi Ongkowidjaja, chairman of Indonesian Business Centre in Singapore with Merry Riana, who now runs the Merry Riana Organization (MRO) Consultancy Pte Ltd.
You're a graduate electrical engineer from the NTU. And you say that now you have to replace the bow, and apparently included in the sales. May be given an input, or what challenges you live now? Why not practice as an engineer but instead get into sales?

 MR: Why change course? Actually, at first, maybe my story about my background for a while, to know. At that time I came to Singapore about 8 years ago. Actually it is not something that was already planned. At that time there are many riots and financial crisis, so I came in 1998. I'm here to study at NTU and the fact I choose Electrical & Electronics Engineering, following my father. My father was an electrical engineer. And so, I went along. Back in Jakarta normally, just grab the first technique, after that going to work anywhere. Why I moved off to the sales? A few months before I graduated, I think. Actually after graduating, I work, why work? I want to be successful before 30. Now that I've entered the age of 26. So my goal to be successful before the age of 30. And if my normal engineering work as usual, working 9-to-5, I will not be able to achieve success before the age of 30.

Because you only get paid about S $ 2000 per month huh?

MR: Not only that. It all depends on others, such as promotions and salary increases, depending on the boss, depending on feedback from other employees. So I want to set up my own business, so it all depends on me 100%.

Then you get into sales in order to contact?

MR: Actually, ideally, I want to make my own business. But I was young, no capital, contacts and expertise. Finally I decided I wanted to get sales. Because first I could improve my English, and can be a lot of contacts. If it all depends on my sales. In terms of income, I can reward / revenue appropriately. So I entered the sales.

How many years in sales?

MR: Now coming to 4 years.

And you say could be at least how much income?

MR: The first year of work I could be around S $ 200,000 a year.

Multiplied by Rp 6000 when converted into yen yes. Then if you want to succeed in sales, what is hers? Can get a S $ 200,000 a year it is quite great.

MR: Actually from the quasi-most important thing is courage. Because most people that I see it's got a great ambition, they have a plan, but do not have the courage to run plannya. Especially for someone who just graduated. I actually planted it to yourself, I am nothing to lose. First of courage. Second, a lot of practice.
So if I may rangkumkan, as an engineer, you have a vision for the business itself, and one way, is the need to have contact and capital. And sales is one way that you think is right for you. So maybe the next episode will tell you as ktia chairlady of MRO Consultancy Pte Ltd, a business that you start to manage it now and you will be working 100%. Thank you.